I Am A Bad Guest

 

I made this realization a few weeks ago.  I don’t mean that I am a bad guest in the sense that I am ungrateful, rude, poor mannered or boorish.  At least, I hope not.  I do my best to remain on my best behavior when I am fortunate enough to be welcomed into someone”s home or office.

What I mean is that I would fail as a guest under my own standards.  When I host someone, I have a few expectations of them.  I expect them to:

  • Sit down.
  • Relax.
  • Have a beverage, perhaps.

It’s a short list, but you get the point.

When I’m a guest, there are a few things that, try as I might, I’m not very good at.  Things like:

  • Sitting down.
  • Relaxing.
  • Accepting a beverage, perhaps, and then enjoying it.

I, like many of my cohorts, am a doer.  I prefer movement in most cases, and always prefer to contribute to the discussion/entertainment/meal/cocktails/activity.  I’m not good at sitting back and being entertained, which is exactly what I want my own guests to do.

A lot of times, I see the same thing at work.  I have been blessed to have worked alongside some really talented HR professionals, who were passionate about things like:

  • Career development
  • Performance discussions
  • Training
  • Mentoring
  • Employee engagement

You know what those people, almost without exception, were really bad at doing for themselves and/or their teams?

  • Career development
  • Performance discussions
  • Training
  • Mentoring
  • Employee engagement

We are all cobbler’s children, I suppose.  But in a professions that so desperately needs to do those things, and has the expertise within our own walls, it is tragic how little time we spend on it.

How great would it be if we all spent a little more time being great guests in our own home?

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